One of the most ingrained habits we may need to release is the need to be right.

It can feel like faith depends on it. Having the correct beliefs, the strongest arguments, the clearest position; all of this can start to feel like the measure of our faithfulness. And in a world that rewards certainty and quick opinions, the pressure to be right only grows.

But repeatedly, Jesus shifts the focus. When religious leaders try to trap him in debates, he often responds with questions, stories, or silence. He is far less interested in winning arguments, and far more interested in transforming hearts.

Paul names this tension too: “Knowledge puffs up, but love builds up.” (1 Corinthians 8:1) Paul knows that being right can create distance whereas love creates connection.

Lent invites us to loosen our grip on certainty just enough to make room for humility, curiosity, and love.

Because sometimes the most faithful thing we can say is not “I’m right,” but “I’m still learning.”

Reflection question:
Where might your need to be right be getting in the way of listening, loving, or growing?